14 August 2010

A couple of little things

I have a couple of little things for you this morning.  First is a new (to me) blog that I think is very charming and interesting.  I'm on the look out for baby related sewing and I hit the jackpot here.  I really like her work.  So when you have a bit of time, visit Amanda @ Amanda Brooke and have a look around.  It's a delightful read.

I found this video and lyrics last week and have watched and read it every day since then.  I hope you enjoy it too.  I've included the lyrics below incase your computer is too slow for videos.  

How to be alone © Tanya Davis

If you are at first lonely, be patient.
If you’ve not been alone much, or if when you were, you weren’t okay with it, then just wait. You’ll find it’s fine to be alone once you’re embracing it.
We can start with the acceptable places, the bathroom, the coffee shop, the library, where you can stall and read the paper, where you can get your caffeine fix and sit and stay there. Where you can browse the stacks and smell the books; you’re not supposed to talk much anyway so it’s safe there.
There is also the gym, if you’re shy, you can hang out with yourself and mirrors, you can put headphones in.
Then there’s public transportation, because we all gotta go places.
And there’s prayer and mediation, no one will think less if your hanging with your breath seeking peace and salvation.

Start simple. Things you may have previously avoided based on your avoid being alone principles.
The lunch counter, where you will be surrounded by “chow downers”, employees who only have an hour and their spouses work across town, and they, like you, will be alone.
Resist the urge to hang out with your cell phone.
When you are comfortable with “eat lunch and run”, take yourself out for dinner; a restaurant with linen and Silverware. You’re no less an intriguing a person when you are eating solo desert and cleaning the whip cream from the dish with your finger. In fact, some people at full tables will wish they were where you were.

Go to the movies. Where it’s dark and soothing, alone in your seat amidst a fleeting community.
And then take yourself out dancing, to a club where no one knows you, stand on the outside of the floor until the lights convince you more and more and the music shows you. Dance like no one’s watching because they’re probably not. And if they are, assume it is with best human intentions. The way bodies move genuinely to beats, is after-all, gorgeous and affecting. Dance until you’re sweating. And beads of perspiration remind you of life’s best things. Down your back, like a book of blessings.

Go to the woods alone, and the trees and squirrels will watch for you. Go to an unfamiliar city, roam the streets, they are always statues to talk to, and benches made for sitting gives strangers a shared existence if only for a minute, and these moments can be so uplifting and the conversation you get in by sitting alone on benches, might of never happened had you not been there by yourself.
Society is afraid of alone though. Like lonely hearts are wasting away in basements. Like people must have problems if after awhile nobody is dating them.
But lonely is a freedom that breathes easy and weightless, and lonely is healing if you make it.
You can stand swathed by groups and mobs or hands with your partner, look both further and farther in the endless quest for company.
But no one is in your head. And by the time you translate your thoughts an essence of them maybe lost or perhaps it is just kept. Perhaps in the interest of loving oneself, perhaps all those “sappy slogans” from pre-school over to high school groaning, we’re tokens for holding the lonely at bay.
Cause if you’re happy in your head, then solitude is blessed, and alone is okay.

It’s okay if no one believes like you, all experiences unique, no one has the same synapses, can’t think like you, for this be relived, keeps things interesting, life’s magic brings much, and it doesn’t mean you aren’t connected, and the community is not present, just take the perspective you get from being one person in one head and feel the effects of it.
Take silence and respect it.

If you have an art that needs a practice, stop neglecting it, if your family doesn’t get you or a religious sect is not meant for you, don’t obsess about it.
You could be in an instant surrounded if you need it.
If your heart is bleeding, make the best of it.
There is heat in freezing, be a testament.


I hope you have a wonderful weekend doing something you love that will refresh you for the week to come.  Thank you for your visits this week, I'll see you again next week.  Take care of yourself.


  1. I just found Amanda a couple of days ago and I was amazed. She is lovely and so is her blog. Wonderful writing and photos. And, by the way, I find your writing and blog to be full of beautiful wisdom and inspiration as well. Thank you for sharing your heart.

  2. That poem is beautiful. I love spoken word 'music' If you like similar, check out Kate Makki 'Pretty'


    Have a great weekend.


  3. Oh I Loved LOved Loved it!!! (the video) thank you for sharing it. As a person who is rarely alone, it confirmed to me that alone is a good place to be, should whenever I find myself there.

    Still reading and loving your posts as always, Rhonda Jean.


  4. WOW - what a gift to wake up this morning and to listen to this wonderful poem. WOW.

  5. Just saw this video today as well. Isn't it wonderful? Such a good reminder.

  6. Thanks for the link to my blog, Rhonda. I really appreciate you sharing my passions and your kind words. That poem is beautiful. I have never read it before and the words are beautiful and inspiring.

  7. Beautiful. Makes me want to go dancing!


  8. Thank you for posting the link for the poem Rhonda. Simply stunning. Sometimes being alone is the only time I get to be me - it's a comforting place.

  9. Thanks for sharing :o) And congratulations on your very exciting news!! Hope you also have a wonderful weekend, I'm sure you'll be thinking about all the lovely baby things you're going to make.

  10. I love the video, too, Rhonda. :-)

  11. Thank you so much for sharing both the blog and the video! Amanda's blog is very inspiring, I can't wait to sit down with a hot cup of tea and read more! I'm so glad you included the words to the video - I need to copy them and read them daily!


  12. Wow! That was totally awesome! Totally .
    Thanks for such a terrific gift.

  13. That's Beautifully-profound, Rhonda(Thank-you for sharing:)

    Have a great weekend!


  14. Such a beautiful poem full of wisdom and inspiration, thank you.

    You have a wonderful blog which I have truly loved frolicking through, I am glad I have found your blog through my journeys tonight.

  15. Gee Rhonda,

    I get so much joy from reading your blog and today I got peace. My partner and I broke up this week - so you can only imagine I guess how I have been feeling. I have been surrounded by family and friends, and now, after reading that gorgeous poem, I'm looking forward to my solitude with peace.


  16. Rhonda I just can not get enough of this. I almost feel as if you did this just for me...that is how refreshing it is to me. Being OK with aloneness. I washed my son yesterday quietly playing on his bed and walked by thinking how beautiful it was for him in his just being. It is so good to nurture this in and for them and myself. I feel like I would share this with the globe if I could.

  17. That's beautiful, Rhonda. Thank you! From one who enjoys being alone. xx Ree


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