Hello everyone. This is one of my first steps towards a new life without Hanno. Most of you know he died on 25 May after a long period of medical tests, doctors' consultations and time in hospital. He was diagnosed with vascular dementia and brain cancer but it took months to reach that decision. I tried to look after him at home in the early days of his illness but he deteriorated quickly with new problems presenting every week. I gave back the Home Care Plan the government gave me for his home care and after he refused all further treatment, he went from the University Hospital to a nursing home where he spent his final days.
Sunny and I after our family lunch.
Our entire family was devastated and overwhelmed by his death, even though we knew it was coming after the diagnosis of brain cancer. We were told about it on 23 March and he died nine weeks later. It was so fast, and cruel.
L-R: Kerry, David (nephew) and Shane.
My sister Tricia and nephew David arrived the following week and on Friday night we had a family dinner at Hanno's favourite German restaurant up in the mountains near here. Tricia and David have been a great help too. David put up a curtain, attacked some mould spots in the house and juiced oranges from our tree. Tricia made a huge difference by sorting through Hanno's clothes and taking them to various charity shops. She's helped with the decluttering too and as we go through all these processes, I feel like weights are being lifted from my shoulders.
My sincere thanks to everyone who sent cards, letters, messages, emails and flowers. They helped me and my family get through some very tough days. It's the small things that help normalise critical periods when life seems out of control.
(DIL) Sarndra with Alex planting a grevillea they gave me.
I intend to continue on with my blog, writing about what I'm doing, with small bits and pieces on Instagram. The bulk of my writing will be on my blog so if you don't want to miss anything, follow me. I've learned so much about budgeting and paying bills that I thought I already knew but because Hanno organised our money, bills and banking, I only knew a small portion of what I should have known. I'm cooking and shopping for one now and by the amount of decluttering already done, I can see I'm still learning about what is enough. I'm continuing on with the back garden so there'll be some information about small gardens and what we can grow in small spaces or pots that will help us eat fresh, organic produce in the months ahead.
I'm glad I'm getting back to writing because not only does it provide the best record of day-to-day life, it helps me think about the beauty surrounding me and how I'm nurtured and inspired by my home. ♥️
Photos by Sarndra and Kerry.
I’m looking forward to reading your posts again. Hugs 💕
ReplyDeleteIt is so important to have a supportive family during difficult times. Having lost my husband 8 months ago due to Covid I know how hard it is to lose a life partner. Sending much love to you Rhonda and I look forward to reading your future blog posts. Karen B ❤️
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry for your loss, Karen. xx
DeleteHello Rhonda, a very inspiring blog. How blessed you are to have such a lovely family. This blog warmed my heart. I look forward to your future writings😊
ReplyDeleteJust coming from your instagram post. Someone there gave such good advice: "Just do the next thing". When you get down to it that's about all anyone can do. Worrying about what comes after that "next thing" just keeps a person anxious. Do the next thing and then the next and then the next. Step by step you get there.
ReplyDeleteTake care.
You’re fortunate to have such a wonderfully supportive and loving family, Rhonda. Take good care.
ReplyDeleteLoving a loved one is so difficult. Our precious memories bring us comfort as we adjust to the new life we have. My heart goes out to you and your family.
ReplyDeleteThank you so much for keeping your blog and informing your viewers of your loss. I look forward to reading again about your life. You have brought comfort, knowledge and hope in these trying times and I truly appreciate it. Take care and know that you and your family are in our prayers.
Barbara - Wyoming USA
Thinking of you, Rhonda and wishing you a gentle path ahead. Xxx
ReplyDeleteIt is wonderful to read your blog again. Take care of you xo
ReplyDeleteGo well into your new life, Rhonda. You are so lucky to have a supportive family.
ReplyDeleteHanno will be remembered and you will be comforted by people from all over the world. what a legacy!
ReplyDeleteSo good to have your loving family around you xx
ReplyDeleteDear Rhonda, I’ve thought of you often over the last several weeks and have wished peace for you and your family. Take care, please. Rebecca
ReplyDeleteIt was nice reading about everyone helping and seeing family pics. Beautiful grandchildren. They'll be taller than you in no time! Look forward to future posts, take care Rhonda.
ReplyDeleteThank you so very much for sharing your life and family with us. I didn't realize how much I felt for you and Hanno and your blog. Your transparency is beautiful.
ReplyDeleteBlessings to you Rhonda. So glad you have your family around you.
ReplyDeleteGreeting from a warm fire side in Tassie dear Rhonda! Hanno certainly left a wonderful legacy. Looking forward to reading your updates as you move gently into this new season of your life. Take precious care, Jude from Fairy Wren Cottage xxx
ReplyDeleteSo good to see you back Rhonda. It’s lovely to know you’ve been wrapped in love and care by your family. Hano would be very proud of how they have just naturally stepped in to lighten your load. Their love and support must be a shining light for you Rhonda. So glad you are comforted by being at home, where you and Hanno lived such a rich and meaningful life. I’m looking forward to your future blogs ❤️
ReplyDeleteRhonda, I am so pleased to see you posting again as you have been on my mind a lot as I wondered how you were coping. Your family is just wonderful. I look forward to future posts as you go through the transition ahead. Chel (Nanna Chel)
ReplyDeleteLovely to see you here Rhonda and thanks for sharing the lovely photos of your family. Great to hear you will continue writing. Much love from chilly Melbourne.
ReplyDeleteTania
It's lovely to hear about the outpourings of love coming your way after a lifetime of giving help and love to others. No one deserves it more. If you can think of anything at all you might need from Oregon, please - just ask.
ReplyDeleteOh Rhonda my heart goes out to you and your family ,I will miss Hanna’s smiley face ,may he Rest In Peace and god give you the strength to carry on without him.
ReplyDeleteWhat a beautiful family you have being there for you and giving each other comfort in this sad time.
I look forward to seeing the changes that you make and learning that you learn and generously pass on.
I am recently separated after 47 yrs of marriage and I am enjoying Reading both your books and blog and I love the learning that you encourage us to try ,I also am learning to live on my own and learning to enjoy time by myself ,thankyou Rhonda and Hanno for letting us readers and followers be part of your lives ,rest in peace Hanno and take care Rhonda 💕🤍💕
thank you for writing here to let us know how you are coping. I've been a long time follower of you all around the internet and as such have thought of you often and wondered how you are going. But also I want to thank you for being generous enough to share this part of life too, I've been guided by your words through many stages of my family's journey, having your words to also guide me in this stage of life will be just as helpful.
ReplyDeleteI see now how important those family relationships are
take care
cheers kate
Rhonda, your courage and optimism are inspiring! It's lovely to have you back. Thank you so much for all the good you do in sharing your knowledge and life experience with us. Margot
ReplyDeleteSending much love to you and your beautiful family, Rhonda.
ReplyDeleteOh I’m so very sorry for your loss.
ReplyDeleteIt’s wonderful you have your whole family to help you
Take one day at a time and be gentle with yourself
So lovely to see this post. Wishing you all the best in the days ahead.
ReplyDeleteRhonda thank you for sharing your wonderful family as you share your loss of Hanno. So many changes. I lost my husband in October last year and it is taking a lot of time to make the changes. Step by step. Sending you love.
ReplyDeleteJoy
am happy to see that you are back writing your blog, i was sad when you only did weekend writings & i was miserable when i saw that Hanno had passed after his diagnosis, cried my heart out with your sadness; you both inspired a nation of of people wanting to do better; glad you had family to help
ReplyDeletelooking forward to reading about you moving forward
thanx for sharing
Dear Rhonda I have wanted to send my condolences on the passing of Hanno. It is great you have the support of your loving family as you adjust to your new phase in life.
ReplyDeleteIt is now 6 years since my husband died but I still feel his comforting presence and I hope this happens for you.
K.
It takes courage to take us with you through this next stage, thank you for that! Your blog and your books have been with me through various stages of my life, in fact I was reading your blog all over again (just read the Christmas breakfast in 2008). I too wish you and your family a gentle path ahead.
ReplyDeleteI’m so glad to read your post and hear how you all are doing. You inspire me to continue decluttering and refining my own home and life to fit the season I’m in as you always have. My prayers are with you every day as you adjust to your new life. ❤️
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing your story and the life that has continued following your beloved Hanno’s recent death. I so appreciate your words and photos which show how love an family have surrounded you as you move onto a completely different life, take care. Denyse
ReplyDeleteGreat to see you back on the blog and looking forward to your future posts. I really look forward to them.
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing Rhonda. Very best wishes from the Apple Isle, jeanette
ReplyDeleteRhonda it is so wonderful to read one of your posts again. I can't explain how helpful and reassuring it is to read about your supportive family and how you are processing everything that has happened with your beloved Hanno. Thank you for sharing your life with us. I look forward to following along as you continue to blog. There will be so much knowledge you can pass on to your readers now you have had these experiences and I know it will help many. I loved the photos! Take care xx
ReplyDeleteOh Rhonda! You and your family have been through a tremendous ordeal in the last few weeks and months. No matter how we prepare ourselves it is never easy. It is lovely to see that your family is supporting you through these difficult times.
ReplyDeleteSending blessings to you and your family.
ReplyDeleteOn reading your blog Rhonda I was reminded of the verses in Ecclesiastes chapter 3 how everything has its time and thought how you are living this out now. I appreciate so much, you sharing your life with us. You have been an inspiration to me over the years with your wisdom and insight; and now with your new journey. There will be adjustments. They’re inevitable. But this one thing will remain … love. 🙏🏻🙌🏻💗
ReplyDeleteHello Rhonda ❤️ I’m so glad to read this entry in your evolving journey of making a good life. One of the lovely comments above reflected how fortune you are to be surrounded by such loving people. But I don’t believe it’s fortune. To me, the love, care, practical help and compassion for your this new life is the natural reflection of all the nourishing goodness that you and Hanno built into your relationships with your family ❤️ I wouldn’t have expected any less. I’m so glad you’re writing and learning and doing provides that practical comfort and a new routine to your day. I too am looking forward to the insights you share. And I’m so glad you’re refocusing on your blog. I adored the high renaissance of our blogs - it was life changing for me - I learnt so much everyday and made decades long friendships. Already you are inspiring me to go back there where we set the pace and the important themes of our lives. Go well Rhonda. Hanno was a wonderful man and that partner who created such a meaningful life will always be there beside you ❤️❤️❤️
ReplyDeleteI have been thinking about you and your family and it's so true even though you know someone is dying when they actually pass away you are still in shock. Lovely that your family and friends have rallied around you during this time of need. It will be nice to keep a small veggie garden to keep you busy and also the prices in the supermarkets are just so crazy and supply issues are another factor too. All the best and I look forward to your blog posts coming up. Kathy A, Brisbane
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry to hear of your loss. I don't follow you on Instagram so this is the first I have heard of Hanno's illness and death. After a lifetime together, I can only begin to imagine how empty you must feel. I am nursing my husband, who has finally had a diagnosis with Parkinsons.
ReplyDeleteThank heavens for your wonderful family supporting you. My thoughts are with you.
Thinking of you Rhonda and sending lots of love to you and your Family ❤️
ReplyDeleteSo glad to have you back, and that your family is such a support.
ReplyDeleteHanno will always be a part of your simple life, and it will be a joy to read about the next phase.
So sorry to hear of your loss and my condolences to you and your family.
ReplyDeleteBravo Rhonda. Wonderful to see your family rallying round and helping , I'm sure it is helpful to you all to have such a loving support network. Hanno will be with you all as you move forward and I am full of admiration for your spirit in adjusting to a new chapter. You have kindly shared your life and things you've learnt and we have much to learn from you still as you navigate the days ahead. Take care and much love to you all.
ReplyDeleteHello Rhonda, I was so sorry to read about the loss of your love. I’m looking forward to your new blog entries, we are just entering a time where we need to decide a lot of things in our life as we age and my health isn’t great. So much to think about is leaving me even more befuddled on what we should do, our daughter and son-in-law want to build us a granny flat so we will be close to them, I think it would be good for my husband when I die so he won’t be alone. Looking forward to your future posts, Mary.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry for you all, didn’t know. Glad all your family are around to help at this very difficult time. Much love and shall look forward to your writing.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry to read of your loss. My husband of 38 years died 4 years ago at just age 61 and I find being alone is quite hard work. But getting through is the only way to go. Writing a blog is a good help
ReplyDeleteHow lovely to be surrounded by family in these BIG times. It’s the little things isn’t it? I love your writing and have your book which I often read more for pleasure at this point but every now and then we implement one of your ideas. Stay well and accept all the love that comes your way.
ReplyDeleteThank you Rhonda for sharing this stage of your life too! Sending love, Brenda x
ReplyDeleteSending lots of love as you learn to navigate your new reality. Grief comes in waves. Just when you think you’ve got a handle on it, some tiny thing will have you in tears. You laugh and cry in the same few minutes. You still buy groceries for two, cook way too much food, plan things for a couple. Talk to yourself. In public sometimes! (I’m grateful for masks at the shops.) It’s lonely and lonesome. You have to sort things that have never been your domain. And make decisions, lots of them. Family are the best. Friends are wonderful. But the missing is awful. Sending hugs and lots of love xx
ReplyDeleteI could not have said it better, Valda.
DeleteI have been thinking of you Rhonda since I heard of Hanno's passing. Your blog provided such a lifeline for me when I was finding my way after my beloved's death. You and several other bloggers became my community, and my friends. through the distance I send you my love with deep gratitude.
Patricia
Dear Rhonda, I was unaware that Hanno had been very ill and has died so recently and I'm very sad to hear your news and send you and your family my sincere condolences. He seemed a wonderful man and it was always so nice to see him about your blog. Your family is so lovely and a credit to you both and I'm heartened to see you continue facing the future in the way you so gently coached your readers to prepare for theirs. As a role model, you continue to inspire.
ReplyDeleteI’m so sorry for your loss of your dear husband. We will certainly miss him here on your blog, too. You have a beautiful and loving family to help you continue your journey. May God bless you all! ❤️
ReplyDeleteSo lovely to see you back Rhonda. I hope your doing Ok. How wonderful that your family is so supportive and around you especially at this time. You are blessed.
ReplyDeleteLike many of your followers, I have been thinking of you even though most of us you have never met in person. The wonder of the internet :-)
I wanted to take this opportunity at this time , I hope its ok. To say Thank you for being you. You have enriched my life with your knowledge of homemaking, cooking, saving money, having good morals and doing what really matters in life.
I always think of you as another Mum. I often turned to your blog for a cooking or cleaning recipe or when life with my family felt out of control and I needed to feel grounded again. Getting back to basics and doing what really mattered. Tuning
out of the outside pressures of life, to have everything and be everyone and get back to the simple things - Family, good homemade and homegrown food and simple living. Many of my friends use to laugh at me when I spoke of this or showed them a handmade dishcloth. But I soldiered on and kept doing what I was doing, being very happy in my ways. You showed me it was normal and ok to do the things I enjoyed. I have all your books, I love them, and refer back to them regularly.
So thank you from the bottom of my heart for enriching my life and being you.
I wish you all the best going forward without Hanno at your side. I'm sure he will be the wee bird flying over you or the bright shining star in the clear night sky. We will all be thinking of you, take care of yourself and as usual I will look forward to your blog posts to come.
Sarah xxx
Dear Rhonda, I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved Hanno. I am sending you love, and hugs Rhonda. I will pray for you and your family- you are all in my thoughts.Your family are terrific and it was heart warming to see these photos, thank you for sharing. The love you and Hanno had (have) now continues on through your family....the family you both built together. I am really pleased that you are going to keep writing. Lots of love, Lily
ReplyDeleteOh Rhonda..I am so very sorry to hear this for you and the family. I am not on instagram. What a wonderful family you have..surrounded by so much love. May you have strength and peace in these days. Thank you for sharing about Hanno over the years and enabling us to see the wonderful man he was xx
ReplyDeleteHow lovely that your beautiful family are all there for you and wrapping you in love and practicality. We were all so saddened to hear the news of Hanno's passing and it's good to hear that little messages of support form all over the world helped a little bit with your sad loss.
ReplyDeleteAlso welcome back to Blogland, although to most of us it's as though you were never away as your beautiful blog was here for us all to dip into.
Take care. xx
Oh, Rhonda, I had no idea. So grateful that you have so many loved ones around you to help you through. Your life with Hanno has been amazing, and no doubt you feel yourself very well loved. Sending blessings across the miles. May God bless and keep you.
ReplyDeleteDear Rhonda, I only heard today about your sad loss. Sending my love and prayers at this tine as you live life without Hanno. What an adjustment it must be. Thinking of you. How wonderful you have the loving support of family and friends. Take care, Kathryn
ReplyDeleteSuch a lovely post and beautiful photos. Sending much love to you and your family. I'm so happy to hear you will be posting again. Hugs to you.
ReplyDeleteRhonda, I'll be honest and admit I shed a tear reading this. I've been so worried about you, although I knew you had a loving family around you. Hanno would be so proud of you. He will always be there. And just a note: Alex is the spitting image of you.2 peas in a pod. Love to you, mandi
ReplyDeleteDear Rhonda. So sorry to hear of your loss. I hope you will find comfort and support with with your return to blogging. We have certainly missed your blogs xx
ReplyDeleteDear Rhonda, please accept my heartfelt wishes at the loss of your beloved Hanno. I am confident that you will navigate this time of transition. It is evident that you have the love and support of your wonderful family, and it looks like your all doing well thus far. My former Husband was diagnosed with terminal Cancer (many years ago now). He died on the 24th May, just 7 weeks from diagnosis. You will gain strength from your wonderful relationship and endless memories of your years together. Go gently Rhonda xx
ReplyDeleteDear Rhonda,
ReplyDeleteMy sincere sympathy to you, dear lady, on losing your husband of long standing. I'm so glad that you have a loving family nearby to help you through this terrible adjustment to your life. I've checked your blog regularly (don't do Instagram) and when I didn't see a post for ages wondered if there were health issues going on.
Thank you for being willing to continue with your blog. I'm currently re-reading "The Simple Home". I wish God's peace for you.
Lyn in Northern New South Wales.
Dear Rhonda, I am so sorry for your loss, thank you for taking time to give some news. You do have a lovely family. As I read your article, I remember years ago when Hanno and you decided to do some home improvements/renovations and to reduce the size of your garden, you said it was time for you to do these. This is what you write in mai 2018 : "What is suitable in your 40s and 50s changes in your 60s and when you move into your 70s, you'll need a safe and secure home that is easy to move around in with few steps and no slippery floors. You'll need a good kitchen and bathroom that will help you stay fed and clean long into your senior years. Try to do the work in bits and pieces before you lose the energy and strength to do it. This is one of the things you can plan for when you're moving from one decade to the next. Work out what needs fixing or changing, and what would make life easier for you, then plan your budget and timeline. (Article:"Slow changes to help you stay in your home") Now, it was a very very wise decision! I am "only" in my 40s but I take your advice even more seriously. You might not have time, motivation or energy to write an article on a regular basis, but I think we have enough to re-read between two articles. Thank you, dear Rhonda, God bless you! Zita, Belgium.
ReplyDeleteThinking of you and wishing you well at this sad time in your journey through life.
ReplyDeleteSuch a beautiful post. Wonderful to have your loving family with you. That is so comforting.
ReplyDeleteI am looking forward to your posts here. Sending you lots of love from The Netherlands ❤
What lovely family you have enfolding you in their love at this most difficult time for you. I’m so happy that you are making plans for the future and getting back to your blog…💕 Vikki
ReplyDeleteI was teary eyed reading your post. You have a lovely family. It will be a treat to read and learn from your new life as you share your next chapters. Best wishes to you from Ontario, Canada.
ReplyDeleteHow wonderful to be surrounded by family and their love at this time. What a help and comfort for you. Continued prayers as you embark on this new season of life. I'm happy to see you writing again. I've always loved your blog and the wisdom you share here.
ReplyDeleteSo happy to hear that you are continuing to blog. I have been following your blog since the pre Instagram days and was was widowed 2 weeks before you were - also cancer, also relatively fast, but my husband was younger and I have teenage children. Your wisdom is very valued. Holding your hand from the other side of the world.
ReplyDeleteRhonda, I am so pleased to see that you have written a new blog post. You have been in my thoughts a lot. Ageing can be a confronting experience, full of anxiety about what is in store in the future. Your post is honest, yet encouraging. I admire your courage and look forward to more posts on your blog.
ReplyDeleteIt’s definitely a new learning process …. I’ve been trying to adjust for 4 months now. I look forward with great interest to following your blog, as you adjust to life without your beloved Hanno. Seeing things from someone else’s perspective may just help me in moving forward too. 💞
ReplyDeleteDear Rhonda, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. I know your loving family will help you through the challenging times and I'm looking forward to reading of your happier days ahead. Sending love and hugs xx
ReplyDeleteMy deepest condolences Rhonda, to you and your family. I will follow along as I have done for so many years now, and I know you will be a source of inspiration and encouragement to so many as you journey through this new chapter in your life. Big hugs xo
ReplyDeleteI’m so glad you’re continuing your blog. I’ve learned so much from you over the years. I pray for you as you find your way to a new life on your own. Blessings to you, Rhonda.
ReplyDeleteI am sitting here with tears. I am so so sorry for your loss, especially as it came so quickly. I've walked in your shoes and the grief can be overwhelming some days. But being able to have family and friends close to your heart and to be able to see the beauty that surrounds you truly helps. May God keep you in his care and guide you. Know Hanno's soul is still with you and guiding you. Hugs across the miles.
ReplyDeleteSo glad to see your post this morning, Rhonda. What a lovely family you have. I’m so glad they are close and supporting you during this difficult transition. We will all miss Hanno’s smiling photos. Give Grace a cuddle from me, and I send you love 💕 Donna from Dallas xxx
ReplyDeleteDear Rhonda, you’ve been a constant in my reading and learning process since about 2008 I think. I’ve always felt that sense of love and companionship that you and Hanno shared. I’m so sorry to read of his passing. My deepest condolences to you. Fiona. 💕
ReplyDeleteSo glad you have your family surrounding you, and so glad you are going to continue your blog. It is hard to lose a loved one, but you have wonderful memories.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry to hear of your loss Rhonda. Sending hugs and lots of love. Elizabeth xx
ReplyDeleteBeautiful post, and I'm so sorry for your loss. it reminds me that life does go on after a tragedy like this, and the values we shared with someone are still important after they are no longer with is. You'll be in my prayers and I hope things will go as smoothly as possible for you as you navigate this new period in life. Your family is just beautiful and what a wonderful thing it will be to have them close at hand to help you when you need it. God bless.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry to hear about this. I have read your blog for years and developed a real fondness for you both. Please accept my condolences.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry to hear of Hanno's passing. I'm afraid that I have been quite busy with my own life (building a chicken coop for my 14 new chickens and life's other responsibilities) that I haven't kept up with your emails or the blog lately. It was good to read about and see your family come and help you out in this difficult time. Hang in there and do keep writing. Thank you for being online and sharing with all of us.
ReplyDeleteRichard in 'the States'.
So sorry for your loss, I lost my husband five years ago he was 57 and I was 52 from cancer, it’s hard but you’ll come through with the love of your family. Heather
ReplyDeleteI am praying to our savior, Jesus, for your strength, safety and comfort during this difficult time. I lost my husband on May 24 and my little dog just days before so I too face loneliness and decisions to be made. You are a strong woman with a purpose in life that helps so many of us in ways you don't even know. May God bless you and yours. Love to you from me, Martha (USA).
ReplyDeleteSo sorry to hear of Hanno's passing. Such a shock and devastating loss. So glad that you had so much support from your loving family. Thinking about you and wishing you all the best as you grieve and continue your life's path. I look forward to reading your future posts.
ReplyDeleteI am so so sorry to learn of the loss of your Hanno! No, I did not know this. My sincere sympathy & prayers on going forward without him at your side. It looks like you have a lot of family support, which is wonderful!! ~Andrea xoxo
ReplyDeleteOh Rhonda - you are so brave, so determined. I love that you have the comfort of your beloved family to surround you in love, comforting you as only family can. I look forward to reading your blog updates as you make your way into this new life. Know that warm thoughts come to you from Texas! ~TxH~
ReplyDeleteI’m so very sorry to hear about your husband. Sounds like you have a wonderful family to help out when needed. I’m not one to comment a lot but I have always loved your stories & look forward to many more.
ReplyDeleteMy sincere sympathy to you and your family for your loss of Hanno. Sending you peace and prayers for comfort. Jane
ReplyDeleteSo sad to hear that Hanno had died. The pain gets less acute over the years but the hole is always there. But aren't we lucky that we had great guys for so long. Take care. Elaine x.
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry for your loss. My partner of 20 years passed away almost a year ago. While I'm forming a new life, I still feel him here. Having family chip in really helped me and I'm so glad you have loving, supportive family walking this journey with you. You are all in my prayers. Lynn Ewing
ReplyDeleteOh Rhonda, I commented on Instagram, but will say again how sorry I am for your loss. I have followed you for years and years and would love to keep following you! I am approaching middle 50s, on the cusp of menopause and looking toward retirement. We live a quiet life in the country, but already I am changing the garden due to some health challenges, more raised beds etc... and I want to scale back on some hobbies and focus more on enjoying the day to day, the time on the farm, just LIFE. You have been an inspiration to me for years and I would love to continue reading whatever you have to say or share. I rarely comment as I feel often I have nothing to say, but this time... I am just happy that you will continue blogging! 💕 (I do follow you on Instagram, but I admit, I do love a good blogpost! Instagram is too instant and does not always present my favorite people's posts to me.) Warmly, Lynne
ReplyDeleteI had no idea. Courage, my friend. How good to know how your family has made this journey easier. I look forward to learning from you re. all you learn/how you go from here ❤️🙏
ReplyDeleteDear Rhonda, I am so glad that you are surrounded by the love of your family in this difficult time! I am thinking of you often, and am send ling you much love from Germany! Kristina
ReplyDeleteDearest Rhonda, you are an inspiration. I'm so pleased to see your beautiful family rally around you and support you .. So much change in short time takes a lot of adjusting and getting used to. I echo what Valda says about grief coming in waves and having good days and bad days. All you can do at times is keep putting one foot in front of the other. I have no doubt your lovely Hanno will be watching over you. He will never leave you, he is in your heart and always will be. Be gentle with yourself, and allow yourself to get through this sad time Iin your own way and in your own time. Sending you so much love xxx
ReplyDeleteI'm so impressed by your determination to honour yours and Hanno's lifestyle by continuing to guide people by example and experience Rhonda.
ReplyDeleteAs you say Hanno's spirit will always be with you. He will never go from your lives because knowing him will have changed you all. You will have links and wonderful memories to share with each other as your wonderful family continue to help you as you have helped and encouraged them in the past.Enjoy it because they will be helped by helping you.
deepest sympathies
ReplyDeleteWriting regularly in my garden blog helped me to cope with my son's death, despite the fact that I have very few readers--or maybe because of it. It is his birthday today, and five years since his death. The pain is mostly hidden now behind the happy memories I have. Those we love never really leave us, and I truly hope for you too that the happiness can overwhelm the sadness. Thank you for sharing Hanno with us over the years; he will be missed the world over.
ReplyDeleteI'm so very sorry to read of Hanno's passing, Rhonda. I know you'll carry his love in your heart.
ReplyDeleteIt's a wonderful thing to have the love, care and support of your beautiful family as these new days unfold. A close family is such a blessing.
As always, I will look forward to your writing and the wisdom you share.
Much love to you,
MegXx
What blessing to have such a wonderful family. So glad to see you back sharing what is an important aspect of life. Cheers Rhonda🌺
ReplyDeleteRhonda I'm so thankful that you have a loving family around you and stepping in to assist. Just take it one day at a time. (((HUGS)))
ReplyDeleteHow lovely that your family all come together to be such a help to you. I'm so glad you're writing again.
ReplyDeleteThose first steps can be difficult, it's a blessing to have such wonderful family support Rhonda. You can be each others strength on the hardest days and have so many wonderful memories to share. Hanno had such kind eyes, something about them always reminded me of my father. Much love to you all and Gracie <3
ReplyDeleteIt's very nice to know you have loved ones surrounding and supporting you, to help you navigate this next chapter. I'm very happy to know you'll be continuing here, sharing all your wisdom and encouragement.
ReplyDeleteRhonda, I’m adding to the list of love here. I cannot know what you’re going through but I’m so glad you’re here. I’ve followed you and Hanno on your journey not long after you began your blog. Today you’re still one of the most kindest, informative and relaxing places on the internet. Much much love! - Heather F
ReplyDeleteSending love and squishy hugs
ReplyDeleteYour optimism in your writing is inspiring to me, even the things you've listed that you already see and are learning is opening my eyes. Your experience is so helpful for me and many folks who follow your blog. Please know you always have our prayers with you, and a warm cup of tea will remind you of the hugs we send.
ReplyDeleteCondolences. Over the decade or so I've been reading your blog, Hanno seemed like one of nature's gentlemen.
ReplyDeleteHowever, the new chapter begins!
A dear friend of mine who was widowed 4 years ago and now lives alone says that the best thing about living alone is: "There are no rules!" You can do what you want, when you want.
Treat yourself gently and cuddle that little dog of yours. xx
I'm so sorry to hear this very sad news. Sending you much love and best wishes as you navigate life without Hanno. May the memories of times shared keep you going. Margaret
ReplyDeleteI want to say so sorry for you loss of your dear Hanno. When I lost my husband over 4 years ago I did a search on your blog for the word “grief”and sure enough there was a post by you, to someone about their loss. You words were comforting to me then. How lovely this community is here with you, through your grief. Take care.
ReplyDeleteLovely to have you back, Rhonda.🙋🏼♀️💕
ReplyDeleteSorry to hear of your loss Rhonda, I didn`t know as I don`t use Instagram. Best Wishes to you and your family, it is nice to have you back as I have missed your blogs.
ReplyDeleteWe are all so pleased that you’ve found your way back to us. Hanno will not be forgotten and your comment about learning to do the things that he did resonates with me. If my Robin leaves me I wouldn’t have a clue about some aspects of our life. Thanks for this gift of sharing your life with us.
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry for your loss, Rhonda. Thank you for sharing so many wonderful snippets of your life with Hanno over the years. You have both inspired me so much. My thoughts are with you and your family.
ReplyDeleteWith love from,
Kelly (Mrs. Kiwi)
Thank you for sharing your precious family with us at this sad time Rhonda. Hanno was such a wonderful life partner for you. Blessed to meet you both and Trish at the Ballarat book signing a few years ago. So glad Trish is also there to support you. My prayers are with you all.
ReplyDeleteDear Rhonda, From New Zealand I am so sad to hear of Hanno's passing and wish to convey my deepest condolences to you and your family. He was a wonderful man and thank you for sharing some of his life with us through your blog. My thoughts and prayers are with you, God bless. Warmest regards, Wendy
ReplyDeleteMy heart soared when I saw this. You have been on my mind so much. With much love to you. NZ Ingrid
ReplyDeleteIt is so good to "see" you through your blog. You have been on my heart so much recently. Its also amazing to see how grown your grandchildren look. I can remember when they were just tiny. Best wishes to you Rhonda <3
ReplyDeleteYou are inspirational. Thank you for sharing your journey. Love to you and your family.
ReplyDeleteDearest Rhonda, I am both delighted to find you on your blog, and sad about the death of Hanno. He had a good life with you, you have a wonderful family and he will always remain in your heart. It's all that matters.
ReplyDeleteI kiss you very much as well as all your family.
I was so sorry to hear about Hanno. What a well-lived life! I'm so grateful that you will continue your blog. I enjoy it so much. The pictures pictures are wonderful, thanks for sharing them. I'm really glad you have a loving, supportive family. For the rest of their lives, your grandchildren will benefit so much from the love their grandfather showed them. May his memory be for a blessing. Hugs to you from Seattle.
ReplyDeleteOh sweetie I am so sorry. I wish I could be with you and give you a big hug. Or just sit and cry with you. You are blessed to have family and friend's at this time. I am looking forward to your renewed posts. Blogging does help grief I think. At least it did for me. Take care.
ReplyDeleteIm so very sorry for your loss. What a great family you have to get the support you needed.
ReplyDeleteMissed you. Sending you a hug. Gail
ReplyDeleteDear Rhonda, I am very sorry to hear about Hanno. I am so glad your family has been very helpful and supportive during this time. May the life that Hanno lived be in the memories of your family and you and a blessing to others. Hugs from Florida, USA.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry to read here of your loss, but am inspired by how your family has been such a wonderful support. I don't have instagram and have missed reading your blog posts and look forward to seeing them when you are able. Take care of yourself, go one step at a time, one day at a time. Sending you warm fuzzies.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry to hear you lost Hanno...and so very glad to hear that your family have stepped up to help you!! I look forward to reading whatever you have to share in times to come. Sending you hugs, Elizabeth in USA
ReplyDeleteRhonda, I'm so sorry about Hanno, but so happy that you will be blogging again. I have always been single, so these new subjects will be of great interest to me. My mom used to say that I cook like I'm cooking for a family, even though I live on my own. I reheat the leftovers from casseroles, roasts, etc. It frees up more time for all of the other chores. I am glad to see that you have so much help and support.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry for your loss, and prayers that you can move through this adjustment period as well as you can. Healing sparkles headed your way! Hilogene in Arizona
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry to hear your sad news - I only found out late this week. I'm so glad your family is with you and helping in so many ways. Take care xx
ReplyDeleteIt is comforting to see you blogging again and the family stepping up. I have been thinking of you. Wishing you strength for the days ahead. Xx Donna (Donna’s backyard farm)
ReplyDeleteAgain, Rhonda, I am so sorry for your loss of a wonderful husband. You have a lovely family to help you; and even though I know you will miss him a long long time; you get help and sustenance through them. Take care of yourself now.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry for so many things. I enjoyed seeing the love and life you and Hanno shared. You have a wonderful family. Their support along with the memories you and Hanno made will serve you well. Hugs
ReplyDeleteYou can feel the warmth and comfort your wonderful family is surrounding you with, through your words Rhonda. In spite of your loss, you are blessed. It´s been a pleasure following you all these years, learning new things, confirming others and such a privilege to continue down this new path with you. Sending love and best wishes.
ReplyDeleteRamona in Uppsala, Sweden
I lost my husband last November. I'm praying comfort and peace for you. Some wounds never heal. I don't care what people say. It just hurts. Keep writing. Keep pushing on We have good days and tough days but we carry on. ❤️
ReplyDeleteso sorry for your loss
ReplyDeleteRhonda I am so sorry for your loss. Through your blog and books we came to know Hanno and his quiet ways and how your skills complemented each other. Now your family is surrounding you with love and support. Through your writing we are still learning about life's cycles and how we can find ways to adapt and adjust and keep going on through the hard times. Thank you Rhonda and wishing you all the strength as you start this new phase of your life.
ReplyDeleteLove to you, Rhonda. I am so sorry for your loss, but so heartened to see your wonderful family rallying around you. Thank you for sharing what you're going through with us, too. xx
ReplyDeleteI had not known until now about Hanno and I am just so very sorry. May his memory be a blessing to you and your family every day. Be gentle with your days and I look forward to your future posts.
ReplyDeleteYesterday, I travelled all the way to a bookstore in the heart of Kuala Lumpur to buy your book, The Simple Home, in hardcover. I've followed your blog, have read most of your books and so I feel as if I know both you and Hanno. I'm so sorry for your loss. I was a carer in the dementia unit of the aged care facility when I was working in Adelaide. I know how brutal the diagnosis is for the family. My condolences to you and your family - thinking of you all.
ReplyDeleteDear Rhonda,
ReplyDeleteWhat a joy to hear from you, it's been so long. But how sad to read your new article. I send you my sincere condolences on the loss of your husband.
But I'm happy to be able to read you again and I say bravo to you for continuing because you are precious to many people. I discovered your blog when I was badly, burnout. And reading you has done me a lot of good. I yearn for a calmer and simpler life and I found all that while reading you.
So very sorry for your loss of Hanno. Prayers and hugs.
ReplyDeleteI am so very sorry to read this Rhonda, I have read your blogs posts for many years and taken so much inspiration from them- my life in the UK has become so much more simple and uncluttered with your guidance. As a couple in our late 40’s we often talk about the team work required to simplify our lives and yourself and Hanno have been our role models. Thank you for everything you have done- so glad to read you will be posting again, have missed you greatly.
ReplyDeleteSending much love to you. Rest in peace Hanno xx
With my deepest sympathy to you and your family. So very sorry about your loving husband. Will miss his sweet face!
ReplyDeleteMy dearest Rhonda -- my heart goes out to you as you start this new chapter in your life. I have followed your blog since my youngest was in diapers, and now almost 15 years later he's considering the US Navy as a career. I have learned so much about life from you -- saving, gardening, sewing, marriage, cooking, canning, soap-making, writing, blogging -- and so much more! My thoughts and prayers are with you now and always.! Karen
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry to hear that Hanno has passed away. I will watch for your blog posts, and wish you well on the transition into this stage of your life. Jeanne (BC< Canada)
ReplyDeleteDear Rhonda, in reading through the many heartfelt comments & the difference that you & Hanno have made in all our lives over these many years - what a legacy of care & kindness. Wishing you strength & every happiness ahead🌻🌼🌻
ReplyDeleteDear Rhonda, I'm sorry to be commenting so late. I'm not on any social media so just checked back here now and then to see if you were writing.
ReplyDeleteI was so sorry to hear the sad news about Hanno, I wish it could have been easier for him and for you.
Sending you big hugs and every good wish as you navigate this new chapter in your life.
With lots of love,
Madeleine.xxx
It's wonderful that you have such supportive family and friends. I wish you peace in the coming days, weeks and months as you adjust to all the newness in your life. Love from Georgia, USA
ReplyDeleteRhonda I am so sorry to hear about Hanno and send best wishes and hugs to your whole family as you learn a new path forward. A true blessing to have such a close and supportive family as you have.
ReplyDeleteYou are an inspiration and I look forward to seeing updates about your back gardens and what you can do in the small gardens and pots.
Lorna.
I am so sorry to hear about Hanno. Hugs to you all as you go through thiis time of grieving and healing.
ReplyDeleteSending lots of love Rhonda. 💖
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry to hear about your loss of such a loving and capable man as your Hanno. I have no doubt that you will continue on with enthusiasm and giving us all the benefit of what you have learned on your simple life journey. Love to you.
ReplyDeleteOh I am so so sorry Rhonda . You will be in my prayers . Hugs Debbie x
ReplyDeleteI was so sorry to hear about Hanno. I pray you will be comforted and find peace as you grieve. I know your wonderful family will help you through. God bless.
ReplyDeleteI'm terribly sorry for your loss. Hanno was an lovely person. I am thankful you have family surrounding you and writing to anchor you. Sending my love.
ReplyDeleteRhonda, my sincere condolences to you and your family. Best wishes and hugs. Kerrie
ReplyDeleteI'm terribly sorry, Rhonda. He was a quiet presence on the blog, but seemed a nice character. Life is hard. I wish you well. xo
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry for the loss of your beloved Hanno. I am along time reader from Maryland, USA. Your blog is my favorite, and I come here again and again. My children request your Whole Orange cake for their birthdays every year. As long as you are writing, I will be here reading.
ReplyDeleteJust sending my love. xxx
ReplyDeleteSo very sorry to hear of your loss and that Hannover suffered. I look forward to your future dreams and activities, Rhonda.
ReplyDeleteI've learnt so much from you already Rhonda, thanks for sharing your days with us.
ReplyDeleteLiz - www.eight-acres.com.au
So sorry to hear about Hanno. I'm not on Instagram, but have been checking back here on your blog now and again over the past few months. I've been reading your down_to_earth blog for many years. If it wasn't for you I'd never have dreamed of making my own soap, something I still do to this day. I look forward to reading your blog again, and wish you all the best.
ReplyDeletefrom Anna
Sussex, England
Dear Rhonda, I am in awe of your courage and serenity during a time of great loss, grief and much change in your lifestyle. Thank you for posting this, many of us may already be, or will be, in this situation and your words offer guidance and hope. Sending love and appreciation to you…hoping there will be many wonderful days ahead for you in this new stage of life. God Bless 🙏🏼💖🥰
ReplyDeleteSorry Rhonda, I didn’t realise my post was under Anonymous until it was sent. Jeni here (MabelGrey from days of the forum !)
ReplyDeleteMy thoughts are with you and your family Rhonda, I’m not one to comment usually but I have followed you and your blog for many years and I just wanted to add my voice to the many other kind voices here…I wish you and your family all good things going forward and it’s lovely that the blog will continue, I’ll look forward to it as you are. Take care of yourself and each other, Simone
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry for you and your family's sad loss of Hanno. I've been reading and your writing for a long time and really appreciate your tips and insights as you've welcomed us into your home and garden. Sending love and well wishes to you and your loved ones!
ReplyDeleteRhonda, I am so sorry to hear about Hanno, I had no idea. Looking forward to reading your blog this summer and gleaming some much needed info on this stage of your life. Take care, you and your family are in my prayers and thoughts.
ReplyDeleteSitting here with a tear in my eye. Wishing you all the very best for today and the days ahead
ReplyDeleteSo sorry to hear about the death of your wonderful life partner. Condolences to you and your family. So wonderful that you've had some loving help and support from your family.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry to hear this. I have been rereading your blog for a long time but hadn’t checked in for a while and this has been such sad news. I do hope you continue to blog. My condolences to you and your family xx
ReplyDeleteYou are in my thoughts as you navigate and build your wonderful furure. What a beautiful family you and Hanno have created and nurtured. ❤️Looking forward to your blog posts again.
ReplyDeleteRhonda, I've been reading your blog for quite a few years and could clearly see in your writing the love and shared values that existed between you and Hanno.
DeleteI send my condolences from Cornwall, UK.
You have both been such an inspiration to so many people, worldwide.
But away from the public personae, I am convinced that you must have been overwhelmingly united in your aims to enable you both to live the peaceful, frugal, thankful life you led.
As you move into a different phase of your life, dear Rhonda, no doubt you will gather many more devotees who are looking for not only a more simple life, but also a purposeful one!
The time and blessings you have poured into your family's lives are now being returned to you.
Sending much love and blessings,
from Kay x
I am very saddened to hear of dear Hanno's passing Rhonda. I am so glad to see you are continuing your blog. I'm sure he would like that. You are a wonderful inspiration to us all and your blog and lovely family fill each one of us with hope and courage to face life's many challenges and changes. Thoughts and prayers with you all. Helena xx
ReplyDeleteHi Rhonda..I had commented earlier under anon. I hope that this day has some sunshine in it for you.
ReplyDeleteJust wanted to let you know that a new Aldi catalogue is out..and your book is advertised in it! The Simple Home...under Sustainable Living. How lovely that many more people will have access to your wisdom :) x
Dear Rhonda, I am so sad to hear about Hanno. I have enjoyed you and Hannos life for many years and truly appreciated how much you shared with us. Hanno was like a rock in the background. A very good man, husband , father and grandfather. May God bless you at this time. I am sure that the blog will provide comfort for you in the days to come. I feel privileged to continue to read about your life. Blessings Juanita.
ReplyDeleteLiebe Rhonda,
ReplyDeleteIch lese Deinen Blog schon seit sehr vielen Jahren aus Deutschland mit. Da ich nicht bei Instagram bin wusste ich nichts von Hannos Tod. Es tut mir unendlich leid für Dich. Ich hätte Dir so gerne noch viele gemeinsame Jahre mit ihm gewünscht. Jetzt sitze ich hier und weine weil ich sehr traurig bin. Ihr habt mich so viele Jahre begleitet und ich durfte soviel von Euch lernen. Ihr zwei wart ein unschlagbares Team. Möge Hanno in Frieden ruhen 🕯
Umso mehr freue ich mich, dass Du Deinen Blog weiter schreibst und wir dadurch nicht nur weiter an Deinem Leben teilnehmen dürfen, sondern auch weiter von Dir lernen dürfen. Fühle Dich fest umarmt und mit Kraft und Liebe gesegnet.
Ich freue mich auf viele inspirierende, neue Posts von Dir und schicke Dir viele liebe Grüsse 💐 nach Australien.
Gudrun aus Deutschland
Rhonda, I am holding you close in my heart and sending prayers. I have read your blog for many years and I feel very connected to you. I will write more later, but right now my heart is filled with grief. Thank you so very much for sharing your life at this time. It is helping me so much! Sending much love, Dianna
ReplyDeleteDear Rhonda,
ReplyDeleteMy sincere condolences for your loss. May He Rest In Peace.
Irene
Dear Rhonda, I am so sorry to learn of Hanno's passing. May God comfort you and help you as you make the adjustments. Sending you a hug from the middle of the USA, Laura
ReplyDeleteSo sorry to hear about Hanno’s passing. I’ve been following your stories since day one, so glad you will be continuing your blog! Take care ❤️
ReplyDeleteThank you Rhonda for your strength and optimism. So lovely to be reading your blog again. Kate
ReplyDeleteI am so very sorry for the loss of your dear Hanno, but so happy that you have such a loving family. Blessings to you all
ReplyDeleteCarole
I'm so sorry for your loss of your beloved Hanno. Family is so important and you have a great family. I wish I had some "words of wisdom" that could make this all easier, but I'm afraid there isn't any. I hope you know you are surrounded by prayers of many fans of your blog, who feel you are a cherished friend. I will be happy to see your writing again. You inspire and uplift so many of us. Thank you~
ReplyDeleteDarlene
Dear Rhonda, I did not know of Hanno's passing. I have been a long time reader of your blog and I have one of your wonderful books. My deepest sympathies are with all of you , and I know that you are blessed with a wonderful, close and supportive circle of family and friends. Your blog and the example of your and Hanno's simple and sustainable home and garden have been a real inspiration to folks all around the world. I know that you will go on with wonderful enthusiasm to new adventures with Hanno's spirit at your shoulder.
ReplyDeleteOh Ronda I am so sorry. I have missed your blog (I don't use Instagram) and have checked the site sporadically, hoping you would post again, so just saw the news about Hanno. Though I live a world away in upstate New York, I've always felt part of the journey you two made together. My prayers are with you and your family. I am glad you are blessed with loved ones who will share your burden.
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing yourself with so many of us.
Hope things are going well for you. Easy does it----one step at a time
ReplyDeleteRhonda, you and your loving family have my deepest sympathies for the difficult times you have all experienced in the illness and passing of Hanno. You are a woman of courage to share your experiences with us when I imagine it must be difficult to do so. Thank you for sharing your life with us, and I hope you continue to do so for many years.
ReplyDeleteI send my deepest condolences on the loss of Hanno. I have been following your blog for years and want you to know that your writing has touched me deeply.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry Rhonda. I have followed your blog for years. Since my children were very young & now they are older teenagers. You have helped me so much. Thank you for all you do. Sending love.
ReplyDeleteHello Rhonda, I hope you're travelling OK. Yes, you are fortunate to have a beautiful family to lift each other up again, but I really think that your lovely family and community is a reflection of your priorities and the way you live your life. Maybe a bit of luck, but a lot of reaping what you and Hanno sowed together. A great example to us all. Take care, Kellie.
ReplyDeleteDear Rhonda, so sad to hear that Hanno is gone. He was a lovely man and we are glad that we knew him. all of our very best Maureen and Kevin O'Rourke
ReplyDeleteSo very sorry to hear of Hanno's passing. Not using instagram, was not aware till just now when checking your blog. Reader of many years and was just thinking how big your grandchildren have grown! I remember when they were just born. Anyway, you are on my heart and I'm glad you have such a loving family surrounding you during this time.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry for your loss. Have been a reader for a long time and just now realized I wasn't subbed anymore. Now it seems that I can't resub. While I am not married, I can't imagine your loss. But I do understand the loss of family. My heart breaks with you. Bee gentle with yourself and know that you are surrounded by a cloud of those who love you. Jackie M
ReplyDeleteThanks Jackie. I don't know why you can't resubscribe, I haven't changed any of the settings. I'll check it out later in the day. Thanks for letting me know. xx
DeleteSo sorry to hear of your loss. I'm glad you're back. Karen
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