10 October 2024

I told myself I’d never leave again. And I haven’t.


I’ve spent many hours recently thinking about living here in my home. I’m reading Wendell Berry’s inspirational and powerful book, The World-Ending Fire, about living in ‘his place’ in Kentucky. Wendell - one of America’s most thought-provoking writers, never bought a computer, a mobile phone, or even an answering machine. He wrote all his books with a pencil and notebook, and with his wife, maintained fields with horse and plow, grew his own vegetables and meat, preserved food, collected water and became content and settled because of it.


This is the tastiest tomato I've ever grown. Medium in size and a flavour bomb.

I’m eight years younger than Wendell but I strongly hold on to “my place’ too. In fact, now I recognise that it’s one of the things that’s made me who I am and which has given me a solid starting point every day.




Homemade laundry liquid costs $2 - $3 to make 10 litres. It does an excellent job with three simple ingredients and none of the chemicals in the supermarket products.


These flowers are native Iris. 


Gracie, doing her daily rounds.

When I was much younger, Hanno and I lived in Germany for two years. We travelled there so I could meet his family and intended staying for two months. But we ended up staying two years and towards the end of our stay, I was yearning to return to Australia. We returned married and with our first baby. When I stepped on my homeland again, I told myself I’d never leave again. And I haven’t.


One of my new linen aprons.

But as it turned out, it wasn’t the wide brown land of Australia I was yearning for. It was this specific parcel of land at the end of a dead-end, one-lane street in the hinterland of the Sunshine Coast. When I walked onto this land, I knew I was home. We bought the house and land and moved here a few years later when I was 49 yeas old. I’ve lived here longer than I’ve ever lived anywhere else. I know every inch of this land and I am part of it. This week, when I brought in my bins from the street, I stopped to close the gate behind me and a local butcher bird, a bird I see every day, flew towards me, circled me and flew towards a baby bird already sitting in the closest tree. I hadn’t seen it until the mother bird introduced me to the baby. But, as I walked away from that wonderful encounter, I realised I’m part of the nature of this place and I have no doubt that on that day, the baby bird was introduced to many other living creatures who live on this land.


Everlasting spinach.

When I first set foot here in 1994, I didn’t understand that I had discovered my true path and I was walking towards the mother load of happiness and contentment. I recognised a feeling of excitement but I didn’t know why I was excited. The house was a drab slab house with absolutely no other features. I loved the creek and the remnant rainforest in the backyard immediately but there were no fences, gardens, tanks, or verandas. All that was still ahead of us and, as it turned out, would help shape the people we became.


I will stay here until I die and my sons will inherit my home. It will then be sold and another family will come to live here. I hope they see how special it is and how it can help them slow down and live well. Not everyone can see those things, but in the words of Wendell: “Slow down, Pay Attention, Do good work, Love your neighbours, Love your place, Stay in your place, Settle for less and enjoy it more.”  We created a life like no other here - it was a new way of living, an example for us and others of what could be done with work, attention, fewer expectations and reaping the ample benefits of happiness and contentment.


I’m pleased with the familiar way every day unfolds here. I grow the same foods, I cook the same meals, I talk to the same people and I never crave for new, better or more - I want fewer choices not more of them. I want old and familiar. Especially in these unstable times it suits me to be in my place with the gate shut, picking roses for the house, staking foxgloves, reading, writing and getting to know the baby birds.


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37 comments

  1. Yes home is home.....there's no place like it, even the country and town you were born in. Have a great week. Regards Kathy A, Brisbane

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  2. I'm 10 years younger than you but feel the same way about my home of 20 years in rural New York State US. I feel comfort in the rhythms starting in the morning until I go to bed at night. I really enjoy reading your blog and have done so for a long time. Thank you. Brenda G

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  3. Thank you, Rhonda. I love your calming posts.They inspire me - and I’m sure many others - more than you can know. You provide an oasis of calm in my stressful world. Thank you, Julia.

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  4. Such beautiful words Rhonda. A balm to my soul x

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  5. Such a beautiful read, Rhonda. I am still working towards your level of deep contentment. I love your descriptions of your daily life & photos. Very calming in these tumultuous times in the U.S., with hurricanes and a looming election. Makes one want to pull the bed covers over their head and not get up. Your blog posts certainly help.

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  6. A really lovely & thought provoking post Rhonda. I love my humble home & garden too & it's the place I feel safest in the whole world. Whenever I am driving home from anywhere (short or long distances) I always feel as though I can't wait to get home again & when I get to the straight stretch of road that we live on I feel really happy to be "home".
    Not everyone feels like this & I feel sorry for the people who don't enjoy their homes as they are often not content no matter where they are. Thank you for sharing this post Rhonda - I shall be looking out for Wendell's books. Julie xx

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  7. Thank you for the post. It got me thinking.
    What about me? We moved from the northeast to the southwest of Germany 33 years ago because we got work here. In the meantime, our children were born and grew up here and have now moved far away as adults because they found good work elsewhere.
    The people here are different to where I was born, the climate is warmer, the landscape is different.
    We have a nice home, a garden and a good living. Nevertheless, I often think about whether I want to die here or go back to my old home. But what awaits me there? It was a long time ago. Times have changed, people have changed, no one in my family lives there anymore.
    My heart never really arrived here. My head and my heart are still searching.
    I will most likely stay here because, from an economic point of view, I cannot afford to start a new life somewhere else and, objectively speaking, I am doing well here.

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    1. Moving to a new home is always a difficult decision. But you're thinking about it and that's the most important part of decision making. If you're doing well where you are, it makes sense to stay there. I was born in Sydney and lived there until I was in my early 20s. I'd never go back there. We came to Queensland for the work and moved to our current home when we were at the end of our working lives and it's been a wonderful place for us to thrive.

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    2. Thank you Rhonda for your words.

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  8. I am so glad that I came across your wonderful post. It was absolutely what I needed. I love my little home, my husband and I worked so hard on it to make it comfortable and homey and then he went to be with the Lord. It's not the same but it's still home and it's the one place in this world that I feel the most content. Loving where you're at and not striving for more but enjoying the benefits that life has for you is a wonderful satisfying feeling. Your post reminded me of this. We're living in such stressful times and sometimes it feels like the world is closing in on us. I liked what you said about shutting the gate and picking flowers from your garden. I know exactly what you're talking about. God bless you and thank you for the encouragement this post has brought me.

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  9. P.S. I'd love your recipe for liquid laundry soap.

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    1. Hi Connie, just search for "laundry liquid" in the search bar on the right right of my blog.

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  10. Thank you Rhonda A lovely post

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  11. In the words of Neil Diamond 'home is the most excellent place of all"

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  12. Loved this post, Rhonda! It's lovely when one can know what they want and be content with that.

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  13. Oh my gosh Rhonda! You don't know how much I needed this reminder at exactly this moment....“Slow down, Pay Attention, Do good work, Love your neighbours, Love your place, Stay in your place, Settle for less and enjoy it more.” THANK YOU SO MUCH!

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  14. I think my husband and I have finally found our place, like the one you're describing. We have moved several times over our 35 years of marriage, and only a few felt like home. But we recently bought this house and instantly felt like we had finally found the place we want to be for the long haul. I look forward to building those memories here. And I just love that sweet story of the bird. She was proud to call you her friend and show you off to her baby :) Have a lovely day.

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  15. I couldn't agree with you more. I have said many times that contentment is underrated. I am so glad that you found your piece of dirt and have evolved with it to create a wonderful life. Mighty blessings...

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  16. Such a beautiful post and sentiment. Thanks for sharing the Wendell Berry book, and the heirloom tomato. I'm looking up both of these. I too have lived on the same land for many years, since '96. It was all woods then, and after much work, holds our home, gardens, rainwater tanks, chickens and solar array. It's my favorite place to be.

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  17. Thank you for this wonderful post. Home is so important. Especially in these hard times ❤️
    Hugs from The Netherlands
    Monique Elisabeth

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  18. Oh, I adore Wendell Berry's writing too, Rhonda. Like your words, there's a soothing truth in them.
    Meg

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  19. Thank you Rhonda. You always remind me to love and appreciate my home. You encouraged me when I very first started blogging (in 2008, I think!) and your gentle approach to housework and gardening and homemaking has inspired me to see the things that need doing as an honour, not a chore. (I confess I don't always manage it 😂). We now live pretty rurally, with far more space than we need - it's a fun adventure for now and was the right choice for us, but I can't imagine staying here forever, but that doesn't mean we can't make a good home here, and continue to learn new skills. You have reminded me I ran out of home made laundry liquid and need to make some more at the weekend! Jenni x

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  20. Thank you Rhonda. This was such a beautiful post

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  21. I hope you get to stay there as long as you want to! My 93 year old mom refused to even consider any different living arrangement other than her home, in which she felt safe and content. We couldn't convince her otherwise and I'm sure its what allowed her to live independently for the rest of her life. Makes me think about where I want to plant myself to enjoy the rest of mine, and like you, I love this little parcel I am on.

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  22. I feel this so much! I am only 42, but my husband and I have lived in our home for 22 years. We rented it for 7 years before purchasing it 15 years ago. Its small, on a corner lot and we have made it ours over the years. We've planted fruit trees that are producing, put in fencing and veggie beds. I even spent over a decade fighting to have our zoning changed so that we could have chickens. We succeeded 3 years ago and i got the very first chicken license in our county! Many of our other friends in their 30's and 40's keep asking us, why don't you 'upgrade' to a large home, or a 'nicer' community? Its the norm to just keep reaching for bigger and better. We love our small home in our established, working-class neighborhood. Could we afford more? Sure. But we don't want more. There is a difference between contentment and complacency in life and I think a lot of people cannot discern the difference.

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  23. Rhonda, I couldn't possibly relate to this post more! Like you I lived in a place that suited me at the time, but I always knew there was something more. When we laid eyes on this piece of property in NE Texas I knew it was... HOME. It speaks to my heart like no other place I've ever lived! It's also taught me to slow down, to enjoy my days, to notice small things I'd never have noticed before and to become more self sufficient. And I couldn't be happier! I've always had an 'old soul' even in my younger days, but now I live that life I've craved all along. My days are filled with gardening, beekeeping, tending chickens & cows. Of making homemade bread, yogurt, sweets and meals. Thank you for this wonderful post! ~TxH~

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  24. What a lovely post Rhonda, yes once somewhere is the right place and feels like home, 'There is no place like it!' Take care, I love reading about your home made items and your dread looks amazing!

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  25. Thank you Rhonda for your lovely words. Like you I have found my happy place. I moved here after my husband died and have gradually made it mine. There were no fences, horrible conifer trees and no gardens. I now have an abundant of fruit trees gardens and are pretty much self sufficient. My dog and I are comfortable in this space. Is this my forever home. I am not sure, but think that it could be. Only time and my health will tell me that.

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  26. I’m a Virginian. I’ve lived several other nice places but my heart is settled in Virginia. I understand your post. Btw, I love your irises

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  27. That sounds wonderful, Rhonda. Location is so important to the soul for happiness. The animals and birds here seem to know me, too. It’s so pleasant interacting with them. We share our land with bears, mountain lions, coyotes, bobcats, and woodpeckers. I even almost bumped into a grey wolf one early morning! Maybe I should say they share their land with us. It makes life richer.

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  28. Today my home looks loved. My lounge room has an orchid with 10 blooms showing off in the corner, a friend gave me a bunch of gardenias with a beautiful fragrance and I have two perfect roses in a vase and a yellow bowl with white daisies on the dining table..oh and a bunch of home grown sweet peas. I had friends come over for a cuppa to cheer up hubby pre an operation and served them home cooked banana cake and peanuts biscuits and two savoury biscuit toppings. It was so lovely to just be home with the stormy weather outside and good company.
    My friend left with the bunch of sweet peas as it reminded her of her grandmother.
    I experienced domestic violence as a child....we never had visitors. So it’s very healing to have created a safe place for my inner child that is welcoming and peaceful. We are so blessed.

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  29. It's funny that you ended this post saying you want fewer choices, not more of them. Today a woman in the grocery store and I both thought that there are too many choices even for the simple Goldfish cracker we buy for our grandchildren. Novelty is tiring and not all that enjoyable.

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  30. Rhonda, thank you for this wonderful article. Our home is our refuge, especially in these difficult times. I loved the story of the bird. Thank you for reminding us of the importance of our homes.

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  31. Beautiful. ❤️ Thanks for the reminder that the same can be better than new.

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  32. Hi Rhonda! I have the same feeling at my place. Home, peace, self-sustainment, constant blessings and a strong feeling of gratitude, on my behalf. Thank you for all your writings, they succeed constantly in somehow validating what feels so right for me, too. Be well, Rhonda and enjoy! Anamaria

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  33. Hi Rhonda. I have always loved and read your work. Thank you for inspiring us. But as a native plant lover, the plant you describe is not a native and can be quite invasive. It is a common misconception and one I believed once too.

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    1. Thank you. Are you talking about the iris? If so, you're right that it isn't native to Australia, it's just what it's called where I live. But it's not invasive here. I divided the plant and physically moved it to another two places in my garden. The clump you see in the photo has been growing there for 25 years.

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