tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5089828552519076506.post5371868196296018800..comments2024-03-29T16:34:01.380+10:00Comments on down to earth: Sorting the wheat from the chaffUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger34125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5089828552519076506.post-59957836971979317522014-02-03T12:36:20.145+10:002014-02-03T12:36:20.145+10:00What changed me at 35 years of age was having a Sa...What changed me at 35 years of age was having a Saul to Paul experience when I accepted Jesus as my Saviour. Since that time I/we have been through much heartache for different reasons but my faith has always kept me going.<br />Karen - NZhappyathomehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13013151124650178170noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5089828552519076506.post-30016493953391650972012-09-24T11:23:22.268+10:002012-09-24T11:23:22.268+10:00Hi I am a longtime lurker here :) your blog give...Hi I am a longtime lurker here :) your blog gives me hope and a sense of peace when I think about what is possible for me and my children. Marriage and 2 beautiful children have changed me. I also said that divorce was never an option. Life had a surprise for me, because while it takes two to create a marriage , it only takes one to end it. It was as if a bomb went off in my life, and it has taken me 4 years to feel as though I am recovering. I was always terrified at the thought of being a single parent, and thought I would avoid my mother's fate ( divorced from an alcoholic/drug abuser and alone with two young children) , but here I am. I avoided the Alcoholic part of the equation, though but not the alone with 2 kids part. I thought marrying a minister was some kind of assurance that my marriage would never end in divorce. I have found that he is a man like any other. While recovering from a C-section, I caught whooping cough ( didn't know I needed a booster shot) and gave it to my babe. We almost lost her, but she recovered fully, and so did I.These profound events have changed me, but I am still sorting out exactly how. I would like to think I am stronger. I am certainly grateful for all of my blessings and aware that life could change at any time. The silver lining in the divorce is that I get some time to myself when the kids are with their Dad 2 nights per week. I am an introvert who absolutely craves alone time. I would never ask for it before this divorce happened. Thanks for all that you do. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5089828552519076506.post-18942889815992095382012-08-29T00:16:09.038+10:002012-08-29T00:16:09.038+10:00What is that lovely "paper" you have tho...What is that lovely "paper" you have those muffiny looking papers in the picture above? I have been married for 41 years. We raised 6 children and have 14 grandchildren. The most recent change was when I spent 5 days totally alone house and kitty sitting for my sister. I don't think in my whole life I've ever been alone that long. It changed me. For the better. It gave me time to think and evaluate. loves2spinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02072576848451758173noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5089828552519076506.post-12858326044838951112012-08-28T19:18:32.651+10:002012-08-28T19:18:32.651+10:00I changed when my children were born too. I wante...I changed when my children were born too. I wanted to stay at home for them so much that financially things had to change. It happened gradually at first as I learnt things different things. Cooking was one of those things, as previously my friends knew me as the 'Packet Mix Queen' and I was so materialistic, trying to keep up with the Jones.<br /><br />When they went to school I took on an allotment and learnt to grow vegetables. Now I have four allotments so we eat well on organic veg.<br /><br />I had to learnt my frugal, thrifty ways through necessity and the desire to make sure my family did not feel deprived in anyway. So over the years (my eldest is 14 years old now) I have changed in so many ways, that my friends from school hardly reconise me as the person they used to know.<br /><br />Life is sometimes hectic now, but I wouldn't change it for the world. I feel so privileged to still be at home for my children, knowing that I am bringing them up in the best possible way I can.<br /><br />Thanks for your post Rhonda, I really enjoyed reading it and it made me realise I've definately changed for the better. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5089828552519076506.post-65164117258112908822012-08-28T14:04:34.946+10:002012-08-28T14:04:34.946+10:00My big change happened when I found my marriage wa...My big change happened when I found my marriage wasn't what I thought it had been. Like you, on the day I married I too knew that my marriage was forever and that divorce wasn't an option - ever (actually I don't think anyone ever walks down the aisle thinking they will divorce at some future time). Three children and two houses later, the unthinkable happened and we separated. I was suddenly a single parent. I had to move back to my parents, change schools for the children, retrain, re-skill, find work after over a decade out of the workforce, get a mortgage, and take care of my little family. That was a huge change and it was devastating and it certainly shocked me, so much so that I almost became another person. I am eighteen years away from that time now and am a stronger, more resilient woman and I know in my bones that I can handle anything that life throws at me. It was a learning curve that I don't wish on anyone but I know that many people out there also end up in situations not of their own making and after being floored, they pick themselves up, dust themselves down and get on with life. It's a gift and I thank God that I found the strength to carry on. Nannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5089828552519076506.post-11140177661019783972012-08-28T08:48:37.901+10:002012-08-28T08:48:37.901+10:00What a great thought provoking post, changes for m...What a great thought provoking post, changes for me were meeting and marrying my soul mate, having my children, one miscarriage, finding my faith, finding myself.<br />sueThe warm fireplacenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5089828552519076506.post-38154202319739356422012-08-28T07:06:47.709+10:002012-08-28T07:06:47.709+10:00Thank you, Rhonda. It was only a couple of months ...Thank you, Rhonda. It was only a couple of months ago and I'm still very much in the recovery period. Am going well, though, and feel very good in myself. They're still unsure what caused it, and are now thinking it may have been a tiny cluster of cells rubbing against each other, causing a bleed. It makes one realise anything could happen to anyone, any time, and to feel very grateful for life, naturally, but for all the little everyday things as well. It's an opportunity to focus on what's important for the future.Roots and Seedshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11496050725815960078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5089828552519076506.post-30463978395360061622012-08-28T00:08:14.192+10:002012-08-28T00:08:14.192+10:00Thank you for posting this wonderful post that jus...Thank you for posting this wonderful post that just makes you think back over your life. I guess a lot of things have changed me but I think I can pinpoint 3 major things that have done the most changing.<br />1) Getting married<br />2) Having 2 miscarriages<br />3) Being sick for the last year and a half with no diagnosis<br />Each of these things has made both large and subtle changes to my being and while some days I fight it and want to go back to the "normal" I used to know, I know that I am being molded into the person I am supposed to be. Jenn0021https://www.blogger.com/profile/09564229911719534280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5089828552519076506.post-5780224576973230722012-08-27T23:15:48.451+10:002012-08-27T23:15:48.451+10:00Emigration changed me, then living with my partner...Emigration changed me, then living with my partner, then motherhood, then getting married. We are now entering our tenth year together, our son just turned 5, we have been married for 1 year and been living outside of Italy for 6.<br />I like to look back and see how beautiful and healthily troubled my life has been so far. I like to see how we have evolved as persons and as a couple. When I met my husband he was a spoiled kid, last January I had a miscarriage and he was my mother for a few days. He's changed deeply, fatherhood has changed him, being far from both our families have changed us. We became each other's rock, the one to count on when the time comes.<br /> Vanessahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13874084003744715579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5089828552519076506.post-84436626598706068072012-08-27T19:09:13.795+10:002012-08-27T19:09:13.795+10:00g'day
a great post as always rhonda
my chang...g'day<br /><br />a great post as always rhonda<br /><br />my change was when i had children, esp my first as things weren't going well for me when I found myself pregnant, gave me purpose to my life though & changed the way i saw things.<br /><br />so many have said the same thing here. bringing children into the world is a big responsibility, one i was ready to give my all to & as a single parent for most of their lives, i don't think i did too badly either. they are well adjust adults now.<br /><br />there have been other changes in my life too but that one was the biggest by far <br /><br />cheers :))<br /><br />selina from kilkivan qldAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5089828552519076506.post-19331541739937432012-08-27T17:50:09.945+10:002012-08-27T17:50:09.945+10:00Ree, I'm sorry to read about your stroke. I ho...Ree, I'm sorry to read about your stroke. I hope you recovered well.rhonda jeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08962112306968959985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5089828552519076506.post-78064182707752466812012-08-27T17:34:29.752+10:002012-08-27T17:34:29.752+10:00What a wonderful thought-provoking post. And I jus...What a wonderful thought-provoking post. And I just love your pictures! I think the life changing moment for me would be becoming a mother, just like so many before me have said. It helped to give me a purpose and a reason for living. My son keeps me motivated and always knows how to put a smile on my face. His unconditional love for me is my life and I want to be a better person because of him. I think meeting my partner was also a defining moment in my life, for all the same reasons as my son is. To have his support and his love on a daily basis is priceless and I don't know what I'd do without him. I love my two boys very much! ♥Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5089828552519076506.post-28206261581970731632012-08-27T17:27:04.049+10:002012-08-27T17:27:04.049+10:00I've been through so many changes, it would lo...I've been through so many changes, it would look like a shopping list!!<br /><br />Each one forms the person you become, piece by piece I have been changed gradually over the years. Marrying young, having children, losing babies, picking up the pieces of a career through necessity, running my own businesses, divorce, single parenting, meeting the absolute love of my life. Changing locations, changing lifestyles, losing parents. Each and every one building up to the person I am today.<br /><br />We have to accept change and embrace it, live through it and help others live through their changes when they seem to tough for them to be able to handle. <br /><br />It's really got me thinking this post of yours, nice thoughts though! Thank you.<br /><br />Sue xx <br /><br />Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04177854521955532744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5089828552519076506.post-91465463279299139102012-08-27T16:36:58.863+10:002012-08-27T16:36:58.863+10:00I think I'm in the middle of a major change ri...I think I'm in the middle of a major change right now! Becoming a mother was definitely a life changer, as the other ladies here have mentioned. It was, and still is, the single most life-defining event of my life, by far. I understood a true purpose in life once those little people came along.<br /><br />But now the kids are at school, I find myself in the midst of another shift, finding a whole new confidence to live my own life and not one expected of me, and to be more choosy of how I spend my time and money and to make sure I'm not wasting either of them on things that don't really matter. <br /><br />I sense this process is setting me up for how my life will be for a long time into the future. <br />Have a great week,<br />Rachael<br /><br /><br />Balance and Blisshttp://www.balanceandbliss.com.aunoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5089828552519076506.post-83837222218800370232012-08-27T16:29:09.214+10:002012-08-27T16:29:09.214+10:00Autism- having a child that looks normal but on th...Autism- having a child that looks normal but on the inside and in his brain he isn't.<br />I learnt quickly life won't be "normal" again however who wants to be "normal"!<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5089828552519076506.post-35037413948815588882012-08-27T15:42:51.296+10:002012-08-27T15:42:51.296+10:00Number one life changer for me was having children...Number one life changer for me was having children. I have become a better person through both raising and learning from my sons. I never thought I'd have children so I am very grateful to be their Mum. Another life changing period of my life was when I divorced, having never imagined being a single mother either. Though that rather harrowing experience I learnt, or relearnt, to trust my intuition or inner guidance again, and how strong a person I really was. Having read Alison's post above at 11.10am, the death of my nephew was very signficant and heralded a change in how I felt about family. I've just had a stroke so time will tell what this will bring about for me. Thank you... Ree.Roots and Seedshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11496050725815960078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5089828552519076506.post-75168392265698862112012-08-27T15:19:11.573+10:002012-08-27T15:19:11.573+10:00I have had many experiences that altered me. Beco...I have had many experiences that altered me. Becoming a special ed teacher was a unique experience that lead me to training as a nurse. I then married and had my own children. Like you I intended to stay and stuck it out for 18 miserable years. My brother died tragically and two of my children have problems, my husband chose to not help and physical isolate me and I stayed. But when I was ordered to kill myself my life altered drastically. I have now started over with very little. I hate that my children experienced such a negative event. Every day I try to not focus on the sad, bad things and work on now. Losing trust in your spouse and being part of a messy divorce is not something I would wish for anyone.Suzehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15283293507101152512noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5089828552519076506.post-15813994168226686442012-08-27T11:10:36.735+10:002012-08-27T11:10:36.735+10:00I clearly remember sitting in a Very Important Mee...I clearly remember sitting in a Very Important Meeting and hearing my phone ring, and ring again, and ring again. I knew something was wrong but couldn't/wouldn't get to the phone. Once I did, I discovered a family member had been killed in a car accident. Is all I could think was what if it was one of the kids? Life changed for me immediately, I no longer have a Very Important Job, instead I'm doing a Very Important Job, just here at home! I love Fiona and her perspective, you introduced me to her some time ago now and she is a high point in my day! Thanks, Alisonalison@thisbloominglifehttp://www.thisbloominglife.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5089828552519076506.post-33169852283783142012-08-27T10:32:04.040+10:002012-08-27T10:32:04.040+10:00Looking back at just these last years, the things ...Looking back at just these last years, the things that changed me the most were becoming a grandmother, and then being diagnosed with cancer. Those things reminded me that life is so precious, and that I should always let those close to me know how much I love them. <br /><br />There are, of course, many other things that made me who I am. Getting married, becoming a mother, losing my own mother, becoming a social worker with abused and neglected children.<br /><br />Thank you for this post, Rhonda.<br />Pammienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5089828552519076506.post-68574976564751109632012-08-27T10:19:41.736+10:002012-08-27T10:19:41.736+10:00Thank you Rhonda for this thought provoking post, ...Thank you Rhonda for this thought provoking post, I really enjoyed reading it. I would say my children is what changed me too :) I have been lucky that they have grown up into decent, loving human beings, I couldn't ask for anything more...<br /><br />Wishing you a wonderful day!<br /><br />xTaniahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10176661940614462611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5089828552519076506.post-52827541734682187012012-08-27T10:10:09.233+10:002012-08-27T10:10:09.233+10:00That's a really tough question Rhonda, I was p...That's a really tough question Rhonda, I was pondering it doing a few of my morning chores. I'm not sure I can think of an actual pivotal moment... my childhood was full of thrifted clothes, home sewing and cooking and I rebelled against it for many years. <br /><br />I think the biggest change was not within me, but within the fabric of society. Blogs like yours, and innerpickle, and many others, that have made it feel Ok, and safe, to rejoice in caring for your family and that handmade is now not the stigma it was 20 years ago. That having backyard chickens, and growing your own vegetables made sense for oh so many reasons.<br /><br />Now I have come full circle, and I treasure the time I spend making a nest for my family, sewing, baking, knitting and saving money all at the same time. And who knew, way back when I was a child longing for some shop bought clothes all of my very own, that the grown up woman she would become could knit her own socks, have her own chickens and be as happy as I am today.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5089828552519076506.post-15545641569709551372012-08-27T09:55:10.321+10:002012-08-27T09:55:10.321+10:00I agree, so many things encourage change in us thr...I agree, so many things encourage change in us throughout life. I think having children has started a big change in me too. I very much agree with the modelling of how you would like your children to behave - so many parents fight a hard fight against their own selves when they fight their children's behaviour (merely a mirror of their own). I love what you said about your home - I hope one day I will have that feeling too. Food for thought today :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5089828552519076506.post-76747764794243391872012-08-27T09:54:16.310+10:002012-08-27T09:54:16.310+10:00Just as you, Rhonda, the change that impacted me (...Just as you, Rhonda, the change that impacted me (and my husband I believe) the very most was having and raising our two children. I too knew that our marriage would be a life-long commitment for me and I've never regretted it. There have been a few times when I haven't "liked" him very much, but I've always loved my husband and have never doubted his love for me. The children are our best achievement and I still can't figure out how we got it so right with them. We were very young when the kids were born and in those early years, I'm not sure that I knew that I needed to set a good example for them. Though as I think about it, the thing I always knew - even from the beginning - was that it was important to me that the children knew my love for them was unconditional. That's not to say that I upheld them whenever they veered from what we were trying to teach them, but they always knew that no matter what, they could talk to us about anything and we would listen. I had to learn to be patient with them as they spread their wings (not always in a good way), and to counsel and train them without going off the deep end when sometimes all I really wanted to do was scream at them! I learned not to be selfish, to put my needs/wants second behind the children when necessary. I learned that I could work harder physically and emotionally than I ever imagined was possible to be sure that our family had what it needed. As I said, I love my husband very much, but I'm not sure that I would have been as willing to make such changes soley for him since he was an adult like I. But the changes my children brought about in me must have been more natural and instinctive than I realized while they were growing up and I'm a better person for having had them than I might have been had they never been born. I can't even imagine how my life would have been had they not been a part of it. <br /><br />This is a thought provoking post...thanks.<br /><br />Diane in North Carolina Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5089828552519076506.post-23611014485737946582012-08-27T09:42:38.185+10:002012-08-27T09:42:38.185+10:00Hi Rhonda, great post!
I am right now going throu...Hi Rhonda, great post! <br />I am right now going through huge changes, my son (4 3/4 yrs) is in the process of being diognosed with some type of disability. Through the process I have often thought about how there is no possible way that I can come out the other side being the same person. I cant yet tell if that will mean a complete 180 change or simply growing or are all those rough edges being very quickly sanded off of my heart?<br />I can easily see that dificulties in life can change us but also some of the best things that happen to us can change us also. We can only hope that we will be changed for the better.Mamie Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04052525828990966694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5089828552519076506.post-2688946800182159242012-08-27T09:41:53.631+10:002012-08-27T09:41:53.631+10:00Hi Rhonda. My most recent change has been my reti...Hi Rhonda. My most recent change has been my retirement three years ago. And they have turned into wonderful years. In my late 60's now I am lucky that my health is good. Retirement has given me time to be available for my grandchildren. Regular visits to my library at New Farm have been a great source of enrichment for me as I have joined their book group, gardening group, and attended lots of their free gardening workshops. But the biggest change has got to be my allotment. I had never grown veggies before in Australia (I was born in the UK) so knew absolutely nothing about it and now I can't wait to get over there at Morningside. I have discovered vegetables I had never seen before, and colleagues over at the allotments have taught me how to cook them. Best wishes.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com